Falling in love and staying in love – they’re both incredible, joyful, and thrilling parts of your life. But the problem comes when you think of them as one and the same. When you expect the infatuating, addictive, high-inducing rush of excitement that occurs during the ‘falling’ stage to last permanently. Or when you assume that the contented, peaceful, wholeheartedly trusting stage that occurs in long-lasting relationships will happen the minute you fall for someone. They’re both wonderful, beautiful experiences, but it is not until you understand how and why they are different that you can truly appreciate what you have in front of you and how you can make it last.
Falling in love means thinking every damn thing they do is adorable, even if it’s as random as the way they sneeze or the way they hold a book. Staying in love means learning how to get over all of the little things they do that absolutely drive you nuts, and loving them anyways.
Falling in love means treasuring every exciting new adventure you share together. Staying in love means treasuring even the littlest of moments – being thankful that they are sleeping safely beside you, closing your eyes as you appreciate the sound of their happy laughter in the other room, smiling at the ‘cheer up’ text they send you during a stressful day at work.
Falling in love means doing everything in your power to make them happy, because seeing them smile brings you so much joy. Staying in love means making a lot of difficult and selfless choices, because the happiness of the two of you as a team means so much more to you than your own individual desires.
Falling in love means discovering all the ways in which you are attracted to them, both physically and emotionally. Staying in love means appreciating all the things about them that they personally deem as imperfections, because those so-called ‘flaws’ are what make them who they are – your favorite person in the entire world.
Falling in love means wanting to introduce them to all of your best friends. Staying in love means finding a closeness with them on a level that is different from any other best friend you’ve ever had in your life.
Falling in love means enjoying the time in a relationship when you get to uncover all the layers that make up the person who has captivated you, and revealing yourself piece by piece to them, too. Staying in love means learning how to open up the most fragile, vulnerable parts of yourselves to one another, the parts that you keep the most hidden, and realizing that it only makes you fall that much harder for each other.
Falling in love means allowing yourself to embrace the out-of-control, overwhelmed, head-over-heels way they make you feel. Staying in love means loving them deeply even in the moments when you don’t like them.
Falling in love means carving out a space for this new person in your life. Staying in love means intertwining your stories and making every decision based on how it will affect the two of you as a whole, rather than thinking only of yourself.
Falling in love means wanting to be with them every second of every day. Staying in love means learning how to continue to be your own person, even if you’re part of a greater whole.
Falling in love means joyfully embracing the sweet, easy laughter that comes with a new relationship. Staying in love means making each other laugh even when things are darker than they’ve ever been before.
Falling in love means (understandably) wanting to spend all of your time alone together. Staying in love means learning how to be happy having lives that still exist outside of one another.
Falling in love means excitedly getting ready for a fancy night out together. Staying in love means feeling like your best self while you’re wearing sweatpants and resting your head in their lap.
Falling in love means looking forward to the next minute you get to spend together. Staying in love means thinking about the distant future with no doubt in your mind that they’ll be laying right next to you.
Sometimes it feels like a messy break-up can last forever. You break up, but you still talk every day. You break up, but you still sleep together on a regular basis. You break up, but you still argue like a married couple. Sometimes it just feels like the relationship never really ends; or maybe it’s just that idea of being comfortable is really, really hard to let go of.
How many times do you have to go through the same bullsh*t, before you realize the comfort isn’t worth the heartbreak? At what point, do you say “I AM DONE,” and finally cut him out of your life completely? When it’s over, wouldn’t it be nice for it to aaaactually be over? You delete his number and immediately delete him off of Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. You’ll show him who’s winning this break up. But in most cases (or at least mine), his number is already memorized and you find ways of to creep on all of his social media, even if you’re not “friends”.
The first week goes by, you haven’t heard from him.
The first month goes by and you still haven’t heard from him.
You sit and stare at your phone until you cave. One text won’t hurt. You just want to know that he isn’t holding up as well as you are. He just needs to know that you are doing totally fine and you haven’t even thought about him in the last 30 days…at all…not once…nope, you’ve been just great since he broke your heart and smashed it into 100 million little pieces. Well, that one text turns into a whole conversation, and now you’re on your way to meet him for lunch. Unfortunately, this is all too familiar. That one simple text message quickly brings back old habits.
Lunch turns into an entire day together, which turns into an entire night together, which inevitably ends up as an entire morning together. To you, this is the beginning of ‘working things out’; to him you got lunch, you hung out and you slept together, so what? After a couple months of doing the same thing, it’s pretty obvious you’re back together; even your friends think so.
Ha! If only it was that simple. All it takes is one text message to the wrong person, for you to realize, you’re not the only girl. Here you go again, this vicious cycle of being comfortable came back to bite you in the a**. You cry and cry and cry but all he has to say is “You caught me.” That’s it; you’re never talking to him again.
Until one month goes by, you send a text and it begins all over again. How many times do you go through the motions before it’s clear that things will never be the same? It could be once (highly unlikely), or it could be two, three or four times. Maybe it’ll take something HUGE to happen for you to finally realize you need to stop. Maybe he’s in a serious relationship; maybe he’s having a baby with his new girlfriend, or maaaaybe you found someone who finally treats you right.
Falling back into old habits is easy. Sometimes it’s too easy and that’s what screws you. You get too comfortable. He’s like that old t-shirt you have from sophomore year of high school. It’s been washed hundreds of times, the armpit stains are disgusting, you’re not even sure what the importance of it is anymore and everyone HATES when you wear it. Just because it’s comfortable, doesn’t mean it’s fashionable. Just because being with him is comfortable, doesn’t mean it’s always the best option. Cutting him out of your life is probably going to be harder than hell. I mean, you two have gone through EVERYTHING together.
It’s going to feel like a break up all over again, possibly even worse. But that morning when you wake up and finally feel happy again, you’ll wonder why you didn’t do it sooner.
Who you are depends at least in part on how you give and receive love (according to expert Gary Chapman, there are five main ways).
1. Quality Time
Since you value quality time so much, you’ve made it a priority over the years to groom yourself into an individual people actually WANT to spend time with. As a result, you’re relatively easy going and pleasant to be around. You’re not the type who needs to be doing something super exciting in order to have a good time. You can make even the most banal situations fun just by being present. By necessity, you’re a people person, and others are bound to envy just how magnetic you are—when they’re not inviting you out somewhere, or asking to come over and hang out, that is.
2. Words of Affirmation
You thrive off of affirmation, so you figured out early on how to accept compliments in the most gracious way possible. You acknowledge flattery without seeming at all boastful or exuding a false sense of modesty. You’re always polite and grateful to others for their kindness and that gentle, well-mannered nature inspires people to be yet kinder—both to you, and those around them. People admire you for your ability to engender so much positivity.
3. Physical Touch
Through respect and appreciation for the power of physical touch, you’ve mastered the art of reassuring your fellow humans that they’re safe and loved with one carefully executed tender move. You’re an expert at affection and let’s face it: everyone loves you for it. You know exactly how to flip someone’s mood from despondent to contented through a perfectly-timed caress or a little gentle petting. People are in awe of your ability to know when they need a hug or a hand squeeze before they even do. When it comes to the human body, you’re incredibly perceptive. You’re also an amazing masseur, and an especially cuddly lover.
4. Receiving Gifts
Since you understand just how lovely it can be to receive a thoughtful, well-timed gift, you’re the first to think about presenting them to others. You’re the one who orders a cake for your coworker’s birthday, who plans the celebratory get-together for a friend in honor of a recent achievement, and forwards hilarious memes to people who will definitely be amused by them. You like the crap out of people’s social media posts because you truly enjoy spreading the well of good feels. And you always send thank you notes. You are constantly aware of opportunities to demonstrate that you care through small but meaningful gestures and others wish they could be as consistently charitable as you are.
5. Acts of Service
Those who value demonstrations of love through acts of service tend to be service-minded themselves. You’re the one who volunteers to take on that extra task at the office so your friend doesn’t have to. You proactively do things like tidy up the house and shop for groceries with others in mind. But you do these things without expecting any accolades. What you crave most in life is the reciprocation of caring behaviors, but you don’t demand them. Your generous spirit is impressive, and others are bound to get jealous of the effortless do-gooder in you.
1. “Her titties were the bun.”
2. “My vagina smiled that night.”
3. “Kisses, fondling, pawing, tickling, plunging.”
4. “She blowed like a pro.”
5. “My pussy plus giant cock.”
6. “We jerked off together first.”
7. “Just the tip—then plunge!”
8. “It was mindful, and tantric.”
9. “He loved licking my clit.”
10. “Awesome foreplay, even better fucking.”
11. “Woke up, mouth on cock.”
12. “Lips all over my body.”
13. “Godly cock meets wet pussy.”
14. “Dick in my mouth—yum.”
15. “He felt so good inside.”
16. “He had me at ‘handcuffs.’”
17. “Boobies jiggling in my face.”
18. “Come all over me please!”
19. “He gave me multiples—twice.”
20. “‘More please!’ the slut said.”
21. “Naked bodies twisted together. Bliss.”
22. “Front and back, both doors.”
23. “Gave her a masturbation demo.”
24. “She was such a screamer.”
25. “Teasing and tickling with feathers.”
26. “She slurped up every bit.”
27. “Her ass was so inviting.”
28. “We orgasmed together, so electric.”
29. “In and out. Deep. Hard.”
30. “I’m naughty, so he spanked.”
31. “Her pussy was so tight.”
32. “Licking, sucking, fucking, and swallowing.”
33. “She deep-throated like a goddess.”
34. “Our ‘third’ was a hottie.”
35. “Suckling her breasts all night.”
36. “Sex party orgy with strangers.”
37. “‘Come play,’ she said. ‘Okay!’”
38. “Her body, my fucking paradise.”
39. “Taking turns with a vibrator.”
40. “Couple of lesbians plus me.”
41. “He attacked, I welcomed it.”
42. “Rode me like a cowgirl.”
43. “We fucked like caged animals.”
There is a general perception that we can’t do much to enhance our intelligence. It’s almost always believed that whether you’re smart or not is determined right at birth and you can’t do anything about it.
However, these are all misconceptions. While some people have conditions that prevent them from being able to increase their intelligence level, for most people, there are plenty of things that can be done to make them smarter.
Hobbies are integral parts of our lives, and once developed, we find ourselves immersed in them on a regular basis. Hobbies are fun and invigorating- and they can also have a great influence on our intelligence.
Below are 10 hobbies that will help to make you smarter- all backed up by scientific studies and experiments:
1. Play a musical instrument.
Confucius said a long time ago, “Music produces a kind of pleasure which human nature cannot do without”. Music stimulates your brain, and this has been proven by research as well.
Music has the power to invoke complex emotions and psychological states. Various researchers have shown that both listening to music and playing a musical instrument increases memory capacity.
Playing a musical instrument also teaches you patience and perseverance for it takes time and effort to learn to play a musical instrument. It also sharpens your concentration.
2. Read voraciously.
Reading goes a long way towards increasing your intelligence level- this is further the case if you read voraciously across many different topics, from fiction and biographies, to anthologies.
Reading reduces stress, helps you to experience multiple emotions, and teaches you a lot about many subjects. All these factors help you to feel better about yourself; being at peace with yourself is one of the most important foundations for positive wellbeing.
Reading is very important for enhancing your knowledge on a subject, preparing for all sorts of situations and being more productive in how you go about achieving your goals.
3. Meditate regularly.
The foremost benefit of meditation is to help you focus on yourself and to get you to know your true self. Being engrossed in meditation helps individuals transcend to a higher state of being.
Meditation helps to reduce stress levels and gets rid of all sorts of worries. With a calm and composed state of mind obtained through meditation, you can learn, think and plan things in a much more effective way.
Regular meditation helps you to have full control over yourself. Being aware of distractions and effective methods of self-control are of the utmost significance when working to improve your intelligence.
4. Work out your brain.
Just as you need to work out regularly to keep your body fit, you also need to work out your brain to keep it in good shape. Regularly challenging the brain to do new things enhances its abilities and helps to keep you sharp.
You can work out your brain in plenty of ways such as through: sudoku, puzzles, board games, and riddles. All these activities help the brain to continue forming new connections. Through such activities you also learn to respond to situations in creative ways, develop the ability to see things from a lot of different perspectives and become significantly more productive.
5. Exercise often.
A healthy body helps to ensure that you have a healthy brain. After all, your brain is like another muscle in your body. Exercising regularly keeps your brain and body functioning as they are supposed to. It reduces tension and helps you to sleep better.
Doctors agree that better blood circulation to the brain means increased brain function. Various studies on mice and humans have shown that cardiovascular exercise can create new brain cells, and thus improve overall brain performance.
6. Learn a new language.
Learning a new language may not always be an easy task but it definitely has numerous advantages-making you smarter, being one of them.
The process of learning a new language involves tasks such as analyzing grammatical structures and learning new words, which enhances your intelligence and brain health.
It has also been proven through various experiments that people with high levels of verbal-linguistic intelligence are great at planning, decision-making and problem-solving.
7. Write your feelings down.
There are tons of benefits that you can receive from writing, including increasing your overall level of intelligence.
Writing improves your linguistic abilities, of course. But it also helps you to develop such skills as focus, creativity, imagination, and comprehension.
Writers are often considered as having very high levels of intelligence. You can write in different ways. You can write things with your hand or you can create your own blog. Whatever you do, you are giving words to the images in your mind; learning to express yourself clearly is a great way to boost your intelligence.
8. Travel to new places.
Travelling is not just a way to kill your boredom- there’s lot more to it than that. Travelling can really boost your intelligence.
The physical and mental workouts involved with travelling, rid your mind of stress. As you become stress-free, you are more able to focus on tasks, observations, and deepening your understanding of subjects.
Every new place you travel to offers new things to learn. You encounter diverse people, food, culture, lifestyle and society while travelling, which puts you in touch with ideas you might never have thought of previously.
9. Cook different kinds of meals.
Many of us feel that cooking is a mere waste of time and it’s something we very much want to avoid.
But instead of whining, you should feel happy when you have the opportunity to cook. Regular cooks, particularly the ones who try out a variety of meals, have high levels of creativity. They are committed to quality, aren’t afraid to try things out and they pay great attention to details.
Whenever you cook something, you are learning to multitask, measure with precision and make quick decisions. With all of these skills you’re acquiring, you’re becoming smarter too.
10. Participate in sports actively.
Participating regularly in sports activities doesn’t only exercise the muscles but also does the same for the brain. Playing sports regularly makes the brain more flexible and improves overall brain health.
Sports have added benefits too. Watching sports has been linked with increased brain function, and through exercising you work out your muscles. Involvement in sport also enhances responsiveness, coordination, capabilities, and confidence.
Top athletes are known for their special form of intelligence. It doesn’t matter whether you play football, basketball or cricket. Consider being regularly involved in some form of sport to boost your brain’s performance.
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In America, the leading cause of death is heart attacks. 25% of deaths in the country are due to heart attacks, outranking cancer as the number one killer. The three major causes of heart attacks are high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and smoking.
According to the Center For Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), there are 5 conditions that will add to your risk of heart attack. Those are diabetes, overweight and obesity, poor diet, physical inactivity, and excessive alcohol use.
Approximately half of all heart attacks happen outside of a hospital, and early detection is key in survival. According to a study done by the CDC in 2005, 92% of respondents recognized chest discomfort as a symptom of a heart attack. Only 27% were aware of all major symptoms and knew to call 9-1-1 when someone was having a heart attack.
Symptoms Of A Heart Attack
Here are the symptoms you need to be aware of when it comes to recognizing heart attacks. These could let you know if you are at risk, even a month before it happens.
Chest Discomfort
This is the most common of symptoms and it comes in various different forms. Some people feel a pressure in their chest, while others feel burning or pinching. These feelings can occur during physical activity or while you’re at rest. The best thing to do is to contact a doctor right away if you feel any strange sensations in your chest.
It is important to note that you could be having a heart attack without feeling discomfort in your chest, as is common in women.
Feeling Tired
A sudden feeling of fatigue for no reason could be a sign that a heart attack is incoming. The heart has to work harder as arteries begin to close, and can make simple tasks feel exhausting. This can result sleeping longer hours at night or feeling like you need to take multiple naps during the day.
Long Lasting Cold Symptoms
Having cold symptoms that won’t seem to go away could be a sign of heart failure. As the heart struggles with supplying the body with blood, blood can leak back into the lungs. Pay attention to white or pink mucus with your cough which could be a byproduct of blood leakage.
Swelling
As the heart struggles to pump the body with blood, veins can begin to swell causing a bloating effect. The main points of swelling are the feet, ankles, and legs because they are the farthest from the heart. It is also possible to observe peripheral cyanosis, which is a blue tinge seen in the lips or extremities.
Dizziness
As blood circulation is restricted with a weakened heart, the brain may not be receiving the amount of oxygen it needs. You may feel constantly dizzy or light headed, and this is a major point of concern and you should seek medical attention immediately.
Shortness Of Breath
Another major sign of an impending heart attack is shortness of breath. The heart and lungs work in unison, so as the heart begins to work poorly, the lungs don’t get the amount of oxygen that they need. This causes difficulty breathing and needs to be treated immediately.
These symptoms may occur up to a month in advance so it is important to be aware of them at all times. If you feel any or a combination of these symptoms please seek medical attention quickly. Take charge of your health and protect yourself as best as you can.
